Most people save their vibrators for solo sex and go au natural when enjoying some couple time, but what happens when you combine the two – Double the pleasure or an awkward fumble?
Hopefully, with the help of these steps from Sex Expert and Brand Ambassador for Ooh by Je Joue, Nichi Hodgson, it’ll be the former.
1/ INTRODUCING THE SUBJECT
Introducing sex toys into your relationship should be a delicious game that aims to increase your intimacy and mutual pleasure. Anything that feels like an interrogation or examination should be avoided.
As such, the best way to introduce the topic might be over some wine at the weekend, or during a mid-week date night.
Dare to take the plunge by volunteering your interest in the first instance. Sometimes all it needs is for someone to take the first punt in the discussion to get a really hot conversation going about what you’d both like to try – and it’s likely that you won’t be the only one that’s ever done some research into it!
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2/ CHOOSING THE RIGHT SEX TOY
Anything that is multifunctional is good for mutual pleasure. So there are some great toys that are designed to fit around him and stimulate her simultaneously.
That said, a vibrating pebble, egg or bullet is always fun to pass back and forth between you, and its democratic design means you can use it all over the body.
But really, anything that encourages you to get closer is a good sex toy. The only limits are your imagination.
3/ THE BEST WAY TO USE IT: COCK RING
Don’t be mistaken, a cock ring isn’t just for the boys. While your partner will enjoy the vibes from sliding into it, he can also lie on top of you and press up against your clitoris and labia at the same time, which will give you the sensation of pulsing off one another.
Have him wear it while he penetrates you for an increased chance of reaching orgasm – and also try with him stimulating you from behind – a great way to discover if you enjoy arousal near your backside – which you probably do, considering all the nerve endings there.
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4/ THE BEST WAY TO USE IT: VIBRATING PEBBLE
A pebble style vibrator really can be used all over the body, so if you have sensitive nipples, ears or knee joints, it’s a great toy to tease these with.
Have him roll it back and forth over and around your clitoral area while he penetrates you, or take it in your fingers and run it down and around his anus.
It’s particularly good for early experiments in anal play where a dildo shaped toy would feel too invasive.
5/ THE BEST WAY TO USE IT: VIBRATOR
A vibrator isn’t just for penetration. Take it length-ways and roll it up and down his shaft – if it’s flexible enough, you can probably squeeze the ends round to meet one another thus performing a giant ring function.
For you, open your labial lips and get him to roll it up and down you, or get him to place the tip at your anus opening, laying the length back up between your vulva.
Given that you could never bend his parts that way, it’s a wonderful option for experiencing new vibrating sensations.
6/ DEALING WITH ANY EMBARRASSMENT
The more unconventional ways you use your toys, and the more ways you use them together, the less threatened he’s likely to feel.
A vibrator is an enhancement, not a replacement – that’s the line you need to get across to your male another half if he’s feeling less of a man for allowing some sexy silicone into your bed.
And once he sees the increased quality in your orgasms, he’s far more likely to feel good about the gadget that’s enabling them.